Monthly Archives: September 2015

Single vs. Alone

Being single is not the same as being alone. 

Being alone carries negative connotations. 

  • “I don’t feel like doing that if I have to do it alone.”
  • “It is not good that the man should be alone.” (Genesis 2:18)
  • “I don’t want to be alone.”
  • “I don’t like to be alone.”
  • “Woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:10)
  • “How can one be warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:11)

Being single may or may not mean that you are alone. 

But the glorious truth is that none of us has to ever be really alone. The Lord declares, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5-6)

Is the feeling of aloneness bringing you acute distress and sorrow? Does the enemy have access to leverage your aloneness to breed discontent and restlessness with your singleness? 

Consider the following lines of reasoning to bar the enemy’s access to this territory. Allow him not to make your singleness into a hard and bitter cup by equating it with aloneness. 

  • A single person can be surrounded with many, many people, to the point that at times it can be impossible to get any time alone at all. 
  • Alone time can be the sweetest, most productive, most focused time of all. Shall we not view it as a gift, the same way a busy mother with many young children would consider it a luxury and a privilege?  
  • Men and women of God throughout history (married or single) have been called upon to suffer solitary confinement for their faith, and they have found the ability to rejoice and be glad even in this. Has grace diminished? Shall we not much more be able to bear the moments we are given to be alone, interspersed as they are with companionship and interaction?
  • Jesus was the only one who ever experienced what it truly means to be alone when he cried out from the cross, “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” But because He did that for us, now we can say with Him, “For I am not alone”…”the Father hath jot left me alone”…”I am not alone, because the Father is with me.” (John 8:16, 29; 16:32)

The consecrated single life does not have to countenance the least temptation to self pity due to aloneness. Even if we were physically and literally alone 100% of the time, we would still have Jesus. Is He not more than all the world? 

What joy that no one can take Him away from us!